Masizlan I agree with, there is no happy so andartu. God created man, in pairs. There are men and women, and from there the community grows. If you do not marry do not despise the life of the unhappy marriage.” That’s the view in the e-mail Rose.
” I was married at age 30 after seven times disappointed in love. I never tired and always pray that God will find a bride with a man who sincerely accept me as they are, accept all the disadvantages or advantages to guide me and I find the pleasure of Allah SWT.” Indeed, marriage, death , died at the hands of God but to deny or say so andartu happier than married, so I do not agree. We have to find a way that allowed in addition to not give up spreads out his hands to God. ” My husband and common friends at university. It is difficult to guess his feelings in me, he did not show that he put faith in me, but after a long friendship, he dared to take me to the wedding ceremony of our friends. I’m brave though ashamed to ask what his feelings for me. ” Husband simple answer – I love you “and I reply” If you sincerely, see a mother, my father. “Alhamdulillah after that everything will go well to this day although sometimes there are happy and disappointed when we immediately overcome with a sense of responsibility, respect and love. We do not let small issues become huge. For us, every problem has a solution if discussed in accordance with religious platform.
” The wonderful feeling of married women when pregnancy and childbirth. time was sure we recognize and appreciate the hard work of our birth mother first and aim to educate our children to succeed both worlds.
” To Norazlinda and generation of girls who feel comfortable with so andartu, I suggest out of these thoughts. Remember, we live not only find happiness in the world but the hereafter.
” Do not run from the nature of love fellow human beings of different sexes. conscious and always ask God to make us slaves who fear Him and met a good match.” That’s the message Rose.
However, the advice and views Norsuhaili no less interesting to note. He said before he was married but she did not wish to push deck finally lost her mother who wants to get married immediately before closing the eyes.
My first impulse” It hurt to drive my mother also. Because today is not easy to looking for a good husband because men also find a wife who not only good, but in the words, a cut body and looks pretty interesting.
” In short, we just want a good prospective husband, but men are five conditions before taking women as wives. Some people want to remain beautiful even though his wife had four children.
” But at the insistence of my mother, relatives eventually find a mate, I have received only, because I get bored with male behavior too choose for a wife, and my own lack of confidence in their own choice.
” Advice grandmother opened my heart to his marriage he had wanted to accept me. He said the meeting is not we find a bride. In marriage there is no divorce refer to. It’s not that I do not know refer to chapter, but I thought divorce would not want a divorce after marriage.
“After marriage, husband, I understood that behavior. He said he can not be held luxury for me, not as much as his salary. More importantly, he does not like the movement is controlled for wanting freedom. We have been married without love, I had to follow his will even do not like.” I’m trying to understand her but she is happy to sit outside the house. He had many friends and often hang out at the stall casual conversation or in front of the house to disturb neighbors. You know some of them come with a motor. ” After three months I was carrying my wedding, so I do not care if he came home late but I have forbidden her friends hang out front of the house because the neighbors do not want to offend.
” I thought his behavior would change, unfortunately, he has swiftly with a picnic and motor activities with his friends. I still expect him to change after birth and to look at the child. Unfortunately did not happen.” Instead he has sent me to the clinic for medical examination, bring the child to the clinic for injections even he did not want to. I had to ask my sister to accompany and bring small children. The reason he did not have a driving license, I have received. But after the expiry of confinement and can drive FAR why he can not I take the child to the clinic? ” To me, he is more concerned than my friends and children. Maybe he do not like single life. ” I try to be patient until the age of one year. Finally I decided ask for divorce. Many reasons, among them he was too stingy about food expenses while he did not pay rent, because the house is my house. Pay water and electricity bills even he avoided. What is more offensive, he resolved to buy milk and feed the child. When I asked, he forgot to give reasons and shops closed. ” In short, I had to spend extra but until when? I am asking for divorce after discussing it but he refused. I complained to the office of religion and tell everything. “He only agreed to divorce and leave the house after I undertake not to claim child maintenance. I know he kind of selfish and more concerned with the friends of the family. ” After the divorce, his grandmother came to ask my feelings. I said no problem because I can take care of their own children. ” said grandmother, a lot different than living alone with her own life. Because we will not be lonely when your old age. I finally understand it.” That story is now Norsuhaili happy life as a single mother.
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